I am Nakia Whittaker-Woody, a Wife, Daughter, Business Owner, Employee, and MOM. My daughters while 18 and 25, still require bonding time with me separately and together as much as ever. I am currently employed full-time as an Administrative Assistant, having 20+ years of expertise. I love what I do and who I am at this stage.
Being a working mom hasn’t always been the easiest of tasks, but as an overachiever, I just had to add more on to my plate. In preparation for the proverbial empty nest, I wanted to do something I love in my free time, so I founded KISS Virtual Services in 2017. KISS Virtual Services offers Administrative and Social Media Management for business owners virtually. Simplicity is what I provide for clients and need in my own life to get it all done.
My day starts at 5:30 am and usually ends around 1 am. I have a bipolar disorder diagnosis so sleep is usually non-existent. I use that superpower to my advantage, by reserving some tasks for my late-night insomnia. My full-time job is from 7 am – 3 pm and then I travel the 20 minutes home to focus on the remainder of my day. My daughters and I take turns preparing meals so usually my day is on the weekend where I only work 1/2 days on Saturday while being off on Sunday. The Weekday 4-11 pm evening routine is usually filled with client meetings via Zoom and other tasks. No night is the same, which I enjoy but can also make waves in my house. There are times when the girls will sit in the office with me and just chat to spend time and times when they complain that I am always in the office. The balance can be hard to find at times but a structured routine and carving out time for both individually seem to keep down all the commotion.
This is my first year with no school involved so finding the time has gotten easier because of no extracurricular and homework to contend with. My youngest daughter prefers to run errands with me after my standing Saturday morning client meeting and LIVE event. While running errands, we usually stop for food and this is where I find out the scoop on what’s going on with her. When spending time with both girls, it’s usually at home for a movie as they can never get along or agree on anything. I also assign business-related tasks to them so we can spend time together, they can learn a skillset, and see the legacy I am building for us.
Of course, there are always things that can’t be missed. Recently, in fact, I chose to miss a client meeting due to my youngest daughter purchasing her first car, which in my book was a milestone not to be missed. Or there was the time my daughter was playing in the house during a client meeting and hurt herself, my daughter chose to sit quietly until I was finished because she didn’t want to disturb my meeting. I also accommodate my clients whenever possible to be present for both clients and my girls. Recently I took a trip to New York for a music festival, I still had my client meetings via Zoom in my hotel room, and provided support to whoever needed it, just a little slower than my usual response time. My family is my biggest support system and I truly couldn’t handle everything without their effort and support to make things easier on me. Clients are people too and most times especially with good communication and a great work ethic they understand.
Daily as events come up, I reserve time to insert them on my written calendar and cc my google calendar, which is also on the home screen of my phone and colour-coded, for work, personal, business, and family. I also have an FB Group which I co-moderate so I use Sunday evenings at least once a month to curate the theme, graphics, and content for the next month. I also use this segment of time to make sure my calendar reflects all that is happening in my day, like client meetings, work meetings, continuing education, etc. There are actually two dry erase calendars in my office for planning. Each family member knows to add their stuff so I can include it on my itinerary.
Somehow it all simply just works, and I am loving it.
Don’t give up, on your business or your kids, appreciate the support they provide and don’t take it for granted. You couldn’t be as great if they didn’t support it. Make the time for your kids, include them in your business. Set up a structure of how you want it to work, get the blessing of those involved and work on it. Review and revise as necessary until your ship runs like a well-oiled machine.